A little advice about 'Early Marriage'
Assalamualaikum...
i'm not too religious or knowledgeable actually to give a talk or advice about marriage, which is the most important phase in every people's life including me of course and the most important ibadah that every muslim must do. but what i wanna talk today is the early marriage in generally, which is what that i know and read, what i had seen in my everyday life as well as my experience.
as we all know teenager nowadays had their own partner and marriage must been in their top dream board chart of course. it is not wrong to be married and get married. but before married, we have to prepared physically and mentally because a marriage is not a joke. marriage is not always about happiness ever after like in the cinderella story, or like the drama on tv that always will be happy ending. but marriage is all about responsibilities to each other and sorts off. and the challenges will always hunt us. so have to be prepared to faced the challenges maturely in order to make the marriage last longer.
furthermore, early marriage is not totally gonna be a problem as long as your future husband have their own job / your future husband comes from a very very rich family so YOU AND YOUR LIFE AS A WIFE WILL BE GUARANTEED AS WELL AS YOUR FAMILY WILL NOT BE WORRIED ABOUT YOUR FUTURE AND EDUCATION memandangkan you are quite young.
let's figure out (for girls only) what will be happen is you and your future husband wanna get married whereas you are come from ordinary family? what if you is the eldest child and your other siblings is still kids and your parent need you to graduate successfully and get a proper job to helps them in the future?? where is your contribution towards your family sedangkan your parent had invest a lot for you guys to study in the universities as their hope for to help them later?? soon you will serve your husband and i don't think so you can helps a lot to your family because zaman sekarang nak jenguk parent kat kampung punn susah. your kids dah berderet deret. and i don't think so you can focus on many things at a time. a full time studies pun susah, apatah lagi when you guys dah ada komitmen lain. suami, anak, rumahtangga, your own family dekat kampung. then pelajaran tah kemana, contribution to your parents dilupakan.
for those who are girls, have the situation like i had mentioned above and still studying, please please think wisely before you wanna get married earlier. before you wanna contribute to your husband, you have to put your family as the first. they will to do anything for you to give you foods, better education, give you everything. study hard, graduate successfully to make your parent proud, get a better job and ensure your family's life guaranteed and then you can get married as you want. serve your parent first.
that's only my opinion that i wanna express and tell. i hope i not make anybody offended from this entry. thank you, bye :)
i'm not too religious or knowledgeable actually to give a talk or advice about marriage, which is the most important phase in every people's life including me of course and the most important ibadah that every muslim must do. but what i wanna talk today is the early marriage in generally, which is what that i know and read, what i had seen in my everyday life as well as my experience.
as we all know teenager nowadays had their own partner and marriage must been in their top dream board chart of course. it is not wrong to be married and get married. but before married, we have to prepared physically and mentally because a marriage is not a joke. marriage is not always about happiness ever after like in the cinderella story, or like the drama on tv that always will be happy ending. but marriage is all about responsibilities to each other and sorts off. and the challenges will always hunt us. so have to be prepared to faced the challenges maturely in order to make the marriage last longer.
furthermore, early marriage is not totally gonna be a problem as long as your future husband have their own job / your future husband comes from a very very rich family so YOU AND YOUR LIFE AS A WIFE WILL BE GUARANTEED AS WELL AS YOUR FAMILY WILL NOT BE WORRIED ABOUT YOUR FUTURE AND EDUCATION memandangkan you are quite young.
let's figure out (for girls only) what will be happen is you and your future husband wanna get married whereas you are come from ordinary family? what if you is the eldest child and your other siblings is still kids and your parent need you to graduate successfully and get a proper job to helps them in the future?? where is your contribution towards your family sedangkan your parent had invest a lot for you guys to study in the universities as their hope for to help them later?? soon you will serve your husband and i don't think so you can helps a lot to your family because zaman sekarang nak jenguk parent kat kampung punn susah. your kids dah berderet deret. and i don't think so you can focus on many things at a time. a full time studies pun susah, apatah lagi when you guys dah ada komitmen lain. suami, anak, rumahtangga, your own family dekat kampung. then pelajaran tah kemana, contribution to your parents dilupakan.
for those who are girls, have the situation like i had mentioned above and still studying, please please think wisely before you wanna get married earlier. before you wanna contribute to your husband, you have to put your family as the first. they will to do anything for you to give you foods, better education, give you everything. study hard, graduate successfully to make your parent proud, get a better job and ensure your family's life guaranteed and then you can get married as you want. serve your parent first.
that's only my opinion that i wanna express and tell. i hope i not make anybody offended from this entry. thank you, bye :)
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